I was discussing this recently with a friend. We all have different ideas and beliefs when it comes to raising kids. I was blessed, to be part of several different “moms groups” while we were a Travel Nurse family. West Coast or East Coast I have seen it all. I have mom friends who are are very different and that’s ok! Some of these moms are still very dear friends after all these years. We are all PARENTS! Stop the so called “mommy wars” please!
Just because someone has a different way of raising their kid or does something “differently” doesn’t mean they are wrong or weird. I remember the first time I met a “cloth diapering” mom. I had never even heard of a thing except for when we were young, and it was before disposable diapers came along. I thought it was the strangest thing ever. After talking with her, it wasn’t strange at all, just different. This can be applied to a number of situations.
Recently I saw a situation that put me on the spot with my own child. A mother was talking about another mother in front of both of their kids. The kids within earshot ranged in ages from 2 – 10. They were saying unkind things about this mother (remember gossip hurts others). My child ran over to say hi to his friend, while I finished up with what I was doing, and overheard some of the unkind things that were being said between these two moms. When we got into the car he asked me about it. After learning this, and hearing what he heard, I had 2 choices: confront the parents who were doing this OR use it as a lesson in kindness. I decided on the second option.
I told my child that sometimes people say unkind things, and it hurts others remember when…(inserted a time when his feelings were hurt).. your feelings were hurt? Sometimes adults do that too. How you react is your choice. Remember how that made you feel, before you decide to talk about another person. Parents, we are examples to our children. Children see and hear everything we do! In todays world children grow up way to fast. Get outside and have some fun while your kid is still a kid.
Whatever your parenting style is: cloth diapering, crunchy, breastfeeding, corporate moms, stay at home moms or dads, remember this: WE ARE ALL PARENTS! Enjoy the ride!
Be supportive of each other! This video sums it up perfectly and makes me smile. To all the parents out there, you are doing a great job!